The other day I mentioned the Oprah show discussing happiness. I DVR'd it and had a chance yesterday to watch some of it, and of course I'd like to comment.
Just in case you don't know, I'm happier now than I have been in my entire life. I can look back to times during my teen years with great memories, and God knows my early 20's were packed full of crazy fun, however, that is not happiness.
To me happiness is finding joy everyday in a million different things. Looking forward to little events and moments in my life is where I find the most happiness. This has a direct correlation to my relationship with my husband, my friends and my family. These are the reasons I find myself most happy now.
Sometimes I get lost looking at my new socks. They're so cute. I love the look of my new golf shoes. I appreciate the symmetry and beauty of our fireplace. I notice the grass getting greener and patches of insane, violent florescent green - how is this possible in nature? I love thinking about a nice golf swing, the look of red wine in a big fat glass, and of course the first taste, slow and deliberate. I like thinking about Billy driving home from work, happy to be done his day. I look forward to dinner (of course), but I also don't mind cleaning up afterwards and restoring our simple order. I love sharing moments with Billy, whether it be in the hot tub, in front of the TV or .... other times. I love reading a good book, watching the dogs play, knowing a client is pleased with my efforts, buying cheese on sale.
I know I'm lucky to have the life that I do. I realize that I may have more time in the day for luxurious thoughts than most people.
Would I be happier if I was 20 lbs skinner? Sold more houses? On vacation? A better golfer? No, I wouldn't. Those things may add to my life in a good way, but they don't make me a better, more appreciate person. When I was in my early 20's I worked my ass off to get skinny, and I wasn't any happier. I was miserable. All I did was work out, I didn't eat or enjoy myself nearly as much. It was a good lesson for me.
So if you're not happy, this is what I'd recommend:
See a doctor, maybe it's hormonal, or chemical.
Look at the big picture - you're probably not dying, you have a job, you have a family, etc.
Consider all the good little things - getting to eat your favorite dinner, a get together with friends, your favorite TV show.
Don't get caught up in other people's drama - it can bring you down, instead acknowledge your part in the situation, and do what is in your power to change it.
Take time for yourself - Enjoy a quiet coffee, read the news, look at some trees, whatever.
Know that you deserve to be happy - do what it takes to get there, plant your own garden, don't wait for someone to bring you flowers.
That's my 2 cents. I hope that everyone has a great day! Time to clean the house.
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