I was simply going to write how golf was great today, I'm getting ready to go camping, and how good life is, but I was lurking around on my favorite blogs, and something kind of fired me up.
I think it is so ignorant that some people believe that I'm not a 'whole' person because I don't have any kids.
I've heard in my life things like, 'Without children, you'll never understand true love'.
How about, 'I wouldn't be anything if it wasn't for my kids.'
Hm, I know many people that have had kids outside of marriage, (or any stability), without the financial capability to care for kids, who are too young and ignorant to prevent pregnancy, etc., etc., etc., but still, in 2007, some people think that I'm not a complete person, hm, interesting...
I think kids are great. I would never begrudge anybody who wants them, but for the people who plan to have kids, or planned and have kids, I would like to know 3 reasons why they wanted them. I can give you 46 reasons why I don't want to have kids...
(Okay, not 46, but I have many valid reasons.)
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I would never think that someone is not a whole person because they don't have kids. That is the most ill informed, irresponsible way to think that I have heard. Who's got such a perfect life that they are willing to judge if someone else is whole or not? As far as reasons to have kids: Wouldn't trade the monkey now, but having a child was not at the top of my priority list before we had him; as far as I know there are no unselfish reasons to want to have children and I can't think of any other good reason at the moment. (I am already aware I am a monster)
Three reasons why I wanted to have kids:
(1) So I can dress them up in cute outfits
(2) So I can add more perfect people to the world
(3) So people will think that I make beautiful babies
What? Those aren't good reasons?
Just kidding of course!
You two are good friends...
i agree: just b/c you don't have kids doesn't mean you are un-whole. on the contrary, i think it is messed up that there's this mentality of "you have to have kids once you're married b/c that is what people do". wtf? not cool.
i had kids because of pure biological need, prettymuch. i had dreams of having a baby. i had dreams of having to make 2 dozen cupcakes late night so he could take them to school (and yes, it was a "he" and it is a "he" and oh hell it's a 50/50 chance so just coincidence, that). i had dreams about hearing his voice and about being pregnant and about driving to the school and parent teacher conferences. and i woke up each time thinking about how happy i was.
and it is true. but that is what made *me* happy. do what makes *you* happy. :)
Thanks DD.
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