Nothin much

Not much is new or exciting around here. Billy is on call and is working late, and today I cleaned the house, (big surprise).

While I was busy today, my thoughts kept returning to a recent post I read on a site where I lurk.

She mentioned that her X had recently broke up with his girlfriend but are now back together trying a 'trial engagement'. This has to be one of the stupidest things I've ever heard of. I should mention that there is a child involved so my lurkee has a definite interest in any relationships her X may have...

If anything, engagement period of a couple is a wonderful time when a person thinks that they could possibly burst with love. A time when the couple is very secure in their relationship and moving forward together and planning their lives. A 'trial engagement' to me means:
a) neither should be secure, or beaming with happiness, as any real commitment is negated by the word 'trial'.
b) one person is perhaps trying to appease another with a false sense of moving forward.
c) if they can't fully commit to a real engagement resulting in a successful marriage, why do they bother with the 'trial'? it's not like trying on wedding dresses to see which one fits best...

I could go on, however, because one thing leads to another, here are some more thoughts along the same line...

In my life I have seen many relationships come and go, (not all just mine...). It's funny what an outsider might see as a red flag, or deal breaker, while the people in the relationship try, (or don't) and fail...

I knew a woman who was miserable in her marriage, (4 kids), her husband asked why, and she said that she couldn't be happy unless they had a bigger house. Their little home was too crowded and stressful for her to live in. He had a huge addition put on, and she was gone with the kids within a year.

I know a guy who was kind of a flirty playboy before he got married, and his wife left him because she couldn't take his playboy ways. Hmm....

I know of a couple who split up for a short time, now they are back together and selling their home to buy another. I'm sure that will solve their problems, especially if it's more expensive, because financial strain is helpful in rocky relationships... (sarcasm) We'll see how that one ends.

People often create excuses for their unhappiness that have nothing to do with the problems they actually have. Happiness, (the Doctor is 'In') comes from yourself. Being happy with another person is about compromise, commitment, understanding, communication, and acceptance.

"And that," said Liz, "is that."