Review part two

One of the attendees at KP's annual Christmas party is a wife of a friend of ours. I like this woman on many levels. I think she is intelligent, interesting and a bit strange. She stated at least 4 times that night that she is very open and sees no need to censure herself. Well, that is great, but she can come off as a complete b!tch.

That night, I wore nice dress pants, fancy high heel black party shoes and a red blouse with spaghetti straps that is low cut and at some angles can make me look pregnant. (you know the type) It is a party, and like I mentioned earlier, I want show effort and I want to look festive.

When this woman arrived, I was seated at kitchen table. She walked in greeting everyone and when she saw me she stopped, looked me up and down and said with a pissy look on her face,

Stupid comment #1
"You look cold."

What I wanted to say, "hmm, you look fat."
What I said after a pause, because everyone turned to look at us, "no actually, I'm quite comfortable."

Now she was dressed nicely, and her shirt was actually more revealing than mine, but hers had sleeves. Later she said to me many times that I looked great, she wishes she could wear a shirt like that, and that she 'admired my confidence'. Whatever.

I also should mention that she announced that she was too busy to prepare a snack, and tossed a wrapped wheel of Brie (with the price tag) on the kitchen counter. Great, what are we going to do with that?

Later that night I was talking and must have been gesturing with my hands, because she interrupted me and said, 'oh, let me see your nails..." I told her that I'd rather not, as they were acrylics that were put on weeks ago for the gala, and they didn't look very good. She insisted and pulled my hands to her and said,

Stupid comment #2
"They wouldn't look so fake if they were painted a better colour, like mine, look I have a nice French manicure done"

What I wanted to say, "yes, they are the only nice thing about you."
What I actually said, "yes, you're right, but this is the only colour I have." (a very, almost white, pink)

At another event, at Billy's old hang out, I was talking with a woman who has been friends with Billy for years. I commented that they have a crazy time approaching, and asked her if she was ready, as her 'husband' told me the day before that they were having 23 people seated for Christmas dinner, and 15 staying the night.

She looked at me with a little disgust, and said,

Stupid comment #3
"Jesus! Has fu(king 'Bob' invited everyone to our Boxing Day party?

What I wanted to say, "I don't know, but he invited us because he likes me, and incidentally thinks I'm hot."
What I actually said, "oh, no, I was talking about your huge Christmas dinner."

She kind of faltered a bit. Do people think before they speak?

At the girl's Christmas get together which Billy and I crashed for an hour, there was a few jokes about us being there not invited. It was funny, and I even joked about it myself. The fact of the matter is that we weren't going to be there all night, imposing on their conversations, drinking their booze or eating their food. We made it known we were just going to be there for a few minutes. They thought it funny that Billy was hanging with the girls.

I was seated next to a woman whom I don't know very well, but Billy always has had really nice things to say about her. I noticed that she had on really cool, colourful socks, (I'm a big fan of stripped and patterned socks of late) and I commented that I really liked them. I then asked the woman on my other side if she was a fancy sock kind of girl, and if she had seen 'Barb's' socks. She said that she is not, and had not seen Barb's. I then, just trying to make conversation and be nice, leaned over to 'Barb' and asked her to show the other woman her socks. She leaned in close to me, and quietly, and evenly said, before turning away from me,

Stupid comment #4
"I'm not here to talk about my socks."

What I wanted to say, "oh, obviously you are here to be a b!tch"
What I actually said, "oh, of course, sorry."

I was so stunned by her rudeness, I sat there until Billy noticed that there was something wrong, and asked me if I was ready to go. I was.

I realize that the above comments are not a big deal in the scheme of things. I know that these people probably did not intend to be rude or single me out. I just don't get why some people behave poorly. Just because it may be one's nature to 'call it as they see it', doesn't mean that they should say anything. I am a bit sensitive, which means that I take some comments to heart, but it also means that I try to be considerate of others.

Some people suck. Oh well, lessons learned and cynicism gained. It will only make me a better person. I guess, we'll see.... more holiday posts to come...